The lessons you need to learn cost us dearly

From Sarafina

(Trigger warning, torture. You can skip to 3:30 for a scene that burned its way into my head since childhood and pretty much sums up these "well meaning" people, invisibility, survival, who matters, who's protected, and what it costs us along the way. And yes, this movie was a musical.)

Bear, maximum ass showing

It's really hard to claim victimhood when someone takes a time out and you decide call them mentally ill and in need of therapy.